Each spouse will choose any three of the following to draw during the date. Keep your choices secret until then.

• A favorite love song you both know

• His or her favorite Bible character

• A movie you watched together before marriage

• One of your most adventurous activities together

• A memorable date or favorite date location

• A favorite destination you have traveled together

• Your most embarrassing moment together

• Something that would remind your spouse of a wedding day memory

• Anything else you want

Draw and Interpret

Each spouse will take turns drawing a chosen item without speaking. The guessing spouse may ask YES or NO questions, but the "artist" can only nod or shake his/her head.

• On a scale of 1-10, how successful were you in guessing what your spouse was drawing?

• What caused you to sometimes misinterpret the intent of your spouse's drawing? (Be nice in your answer.)

Discuss and Reflect

Identify a few ways you can improve your communication with one another to cut out the guessing game. Some options include...

• Think and pray before I speak

• Clearly state what is on my mind

• Quit expecting my spouse to read my mind

• Use voice tones that are kinder and gentler

• Humbly communicate my needs and desires

• Listen more and talk less

• Strive to understand and empathize with the needs of my spouse

• Realize that my unspoken expectations can cause miscommunication and frustration

• Choose my words wisely

• Schedule time to talk in non-conflict moments or before/after hectic parts of the day

Before you end your date, discuss the coming week's schedule and communicate plans you have in mind and how you will create space for real communication.