Each spouse should spend a few minutes writing down their responses to the DID YOU KNOW? statements below. 

• A character quality I admire in you is... (i.e. patience, diligence, sincerity, kindness, playfulness, honesty, humility)

• I appreciate the simple ways you serve me by...(i.e. sacrificing hobbies, helping with the children, making coffee in the morning, working to provide for us/our family, managing the household)

• Something I love about you is...(i.e. how you play with the children, your thoughtfulness, your sense of humor, how you care for others, your passion for life)

• One way I've seen you grow closer to God is...(i.e. your self-discipline, your compassion for the poor, how you pray, taking us to church, desire to read the Bible, your selflessness)

• I feel most refreshed by you when...(i.e. you rub my shoulders, we go shopping together, we kiss, you wink at me, we make love)

• Optional: Come up with your own DID YOU KNOW? comments.

During the date, take turns reading aloud your answers to the above statements.

Read these Bible verses together and discuss the blessings that come from encouragement.

• 1 Thessalonians 5:11 says "Therefore, encourage one another and build each other up." (Blessing = refreshing words will build up my spouse)

• Proverbs 11:25 says "...he who refreshes others will himself be refreshed." (Blessing = refreshing my spouse refreshes me)

• Hebrews 3:13 says "Encourage one another daily...so that none of you may be hardened by sin's deceitfulness." (Blessing = refreshing one another keeps our hearts soft)